Frequently Asked Questions

  • Typical parenting plans will include: a basic timeshare schedule, vacation and a school break schedule, a holiday schedule, transportation, extracurriculars, etc.

    • Timeshare formulation is based on age, current relationships with each parent and the child’s needs.

    • For very young children the best plan allows the child frequent and consistent patterns of time with each parent

    • School Age children are better able to manage longer times away from each parent and often longer blocks of time with each parent.

    • Adolescents often have their own ideas and wishes about how they spend time with each parent. The best timeshare takes the child’s wishes into account.

  • Some conflict is normal and to be expected in the co parent relationship. However, ongoing chronic conflict will negatively impact your child/ren. Helpful ways to manage conflict: give your co parent the benefit of the doubt, be open and flexible, before jumping to conclusions and assumptions check in with your co parent in a non-accusatory way.

  • Don’t

    • Use your child as a messenger

    • Talk with your child about your disappointment with the other parent

    • Involve the child in financial or other conflicts

    • Speak poorly of the other parent

    • Discuss co parenting issues or fight during exchanges

    Do’s

    • Encourage your child to discuss their needs and wants with the other parent

    • Be professional and appropriate at exchanges

    • Let your child know that you appreciate their time with the other parent

    • Support your co parent when they are having parenting challenges

    • Give you co parent the benefit of the doubt